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All I Am Depends On You
How Codependency Affects You

Author Unknown*

Number 195

• My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.

• My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.

• Your struggles affect MY serenity. MY mental attention focuses on solving YOUR problems or relieving YOUR pain.

• My mental attention is focused on PLEASING YOU.

• My mental attention is focused on PROTECTING YOU.

• My mental attention is focused on manipulating you to "to do it my way".

• My self-esteem is bolstered by solving YOUR problem.

• My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving YOUR pain.

• My own hobbies and interests are put aside. My time is spent sharing YOUR interests and hobbies.

• YOUR clothing and personal appearance is dictated by my desires as I feel that YOU ARE A REFLECTION OF ME.

• YOUR behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel that YOU ARE A REFLECTION OF ME.

• I AM NOT AWARE OF HOW I FEEL. I am aware of how YOU feel. I am not aware of what I want. I ask what YOU want. IF I AM NOT AWARE I ASSUME.

• The dreams that I have for MY future are linked to YOU.

• My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.

• My fear of YOUR anger determines what I say or do.

• I use GIVING as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.

• My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with YOU.

• I put MY values aside in order to connect with YOU.

• I value YOUR opinion and way of doing things MORE THAN MY OWN.

• The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours.

* This article is taken from the Constructive Love Codependency WebSite. For other excellent codependency materials, visit this site at http://www2.scescape.com/support/

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