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All I Am Depends On You
How Codependency Affects You
- My good feelings about who I am stem from being
liked by you.
- My good feelings about who I am stem from
receiving approval from you.
- Your struggles affect MY serenity. MY mental
attention focuses on solving YOUR problems or relieving YOUR pain.
- My mental attention is focused on PLEASING YOU.
- My mental attention is focused on PROTECTING YOU.
- My mental attention is focused on manipulating you
to "to do it my way".
- My self-esteem is bolstered by solving YOUR
- My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving YOUR
- My own hobbies and interests are put aside. My
time is spent sharing YOUR interests and hobbies.
- YOUR clothing and personal appearance is dictated
by my desires as I feel that YOU ARE A REFLECTION OF ME.
- YOUR behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel
that YOU ARE A REFLECTION OF ME.
- I AM NOT AWARE OF HOW I FEEL. I am aware of how
YOU feel. I am not aware of what I want. I ask what YOU want. IF I AM NOT AWARE I ASSUME.
- The dreams that I have for MY future are linked to
- My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.
- My fear of YOUR anger determines what I say or do.
- I use GIVING as a way of feeling safe in our
- My social circle diminishes as I involve myself
- I put MY values aside in order to connect with
- I value YOUR opinion and way of doing things MORE
THAN MY OWN.
- The quality of my life is in relation to the
quality of yours.
* This article is taken from the Constructive Love Codependency WebSite. For
other excellent codependency materials, visit this site at
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