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What Parenting Taught Me about Leadership
Thomas F. Fischer,
"If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer [i.e. pastor], ...
He must manage his own family well..."
I Timothy 3:1,4 (NIV)
- Prayer is my best defense and offense. Sometimes it's my only hope. But that's OK. God answers prayer. Parenting proves it!
- No rules, they rebel; too many rules, they rebel. Have rules anyway but enforce them appropriately.
- Don't be such a control freak.
- Relax. Everything's going to be all right.
- Discipline is always a direct function of love.
- They dont think Im as smart as I do. But then again, maybe Im not that smart.
- If you dont trust them, youll never find out if they can be trusted.
- Experience, in their perception, doesnt always matter. Thats OK. Experience will teach them it does.
- My perspective is more complex than theirs. Sometimes, if I loosen up, I can understand their simple perspective.
- Just because I understand the potential consequences more clearly doesnt mean I shouldnt let them try.
- The only thing they understand is simplicity. Therefore I will live by a new motto: simplify, simplify, simplify.
- Sometimes I have to avoid picking up the clutter so that they can see that they need to pick it up. Though I can do it better, faster, and more effectively by myself, I dont, I wont, and I cant. Its their responsibility.
- Conflict is expected and inevitable. But, after all is said and done, it strengthens the relationship.
- Making mistakeseven big mistakesis just part of growth. So, let them make appropriate mistakes. Afterwards, encourage and help them learn from their mistakes.
- The greatest wisdom comes from making the greatest mistakes.
- Not everyone will like me because of my child. It doesnt matter. My child is a child of God. Thats all that matters.
- Unfortunately, kids dont come with remote controls. Fortunately, neither do I. Sometimes they think I do. At those times I must remind them that I dont.
- I cant treat every child alike. Theyre just too different! Learn to love and celebrate the differences.
- Since I cant always control the end result; the best I can do is instill values and motivate achievement. The rest is up to them and God.
- Though it wasnt what I wanted, I will celebrate how my children reinvented my original idea even if I didnt always understand it.
- I usually let the kids think it was really their idea.
- I can distinguish between the essential and the small stuff. I dont sweat the small stuff. The essentials I deal with the best I can. The rest I leave to God. (It's funny, seems the older the children get, the more I leave to God! That's OK, too. I have a really BIG God!)
- Parenting is the most joyful and painful thing a person can do.
- Follow-through and accountability are essential development tools for children..
- Children need a parent to leadeven though they may not want or like one. Lead anyway.
- God always comes through. Boy, does He ever!!!
- Consensus and agreement arent always possible.
- Sometimes you got to go against the flow, take a chance, and stand up to the opposition.
- Trust your intuition especially when they refuse to give you the facts.
- Be able to change plans on the fly because even the best plans can go awry.
- Dont worry about how stupid, dumb, or incompetent you look. You cant change their perception of you anyway. If you think you can, then you're really stupid, dumb, and ....
- Sometimes I'm wrong, even when I think I'm right. Eat crow, ask forgiveness and move on.
- Sometimes the best things that happen are the things I dont know about. In fact, sometimes the greatest moments of parenting were moments of ignorance.
- As long as Im a parent, Ill never stop learning about me, about my family, and about God's faithfulness, strength, and leading in my life and those in my family.
- God's greatest blessings come through the people that He has placed closest to me.
Thomas F. Fischer
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