1) Your life is “out of balance”;
2) You’re good at meeting others’ needs and lousy at meeting your own;
3) You hesitate to speak up about your own legitimate needs;
4) You have a lot of one-way relationships;
4) You give a lot away and get nothing in return;
5) Your image of yourself is based on what happens outside of you, not within you;
6) You are afraid of people who are controlling;
7) You are afraid and intimidated by others’ anger. Thus, you do everything to please them you possibly can;
8) You are extremely sensitive to personal criticism, even though you may hid it relatively well;
9) You feel guilty when You stand up for yourself, your needs or legitimate wants;
10) You are overly dependent on others to maintain your sense of balance and security. If they leave, you’re imbalanced and devastated;
11) You are dependent on the encouragement of others to avoid failure. Without their encouragement you get overwhelmed and begin “awful-izing” behaviors;
12) You will do almost anything to keep people from criticizing you including lying, stretching the truth, exaggerating, reversing positions, avoiding taking positions, becoming aloof, etc.;.
13) You believe that there’s no limit to what a Christian should do to help others and your work schedule reflects it!
14) You do more than your share in any relationship;
15) You use helping others as a way to control or influence others to like or pay attention to you;
16) Because you do so much for others, you expect them to do what you ask (read “demand”) them to do for you. Of course, it is because they “love Jesus”, right???
17) Others allow you to keep sacrificing yourself and thus “use” you to support them at the expense of sacrificing yourself;
18) You can’t understand why people don’t respect and like you when you do so much for them;
19) You don’t express your anger. You just hold it all in behind your nice, passive-aggressive “Christian” smile;
20) You believe no one respects or accepts you apart from what you do for them.